Well I found out that most everybody in our new group cheated last week. Okay not everybody, I think there were three of us who didn't let anything but product and water pass our lips.
This program is not cheap, and it surprises me that people actually keep coming when they are really unwilling to do the program. The truth is it takes very little discipline to do it. Really, we aren't given any choices and we are given a balanced food, so there is no craving for other foods. Well to be more specific maybe there are wantings, but not cravings.
Excuses galore. And some people take what they talk about in group and make that their excuse for straying from the program. We have talked alot about being emotional eaters, and so when someone strays it is because they had an "emotional" meltdown. Life is too stressful, my coworkers yelled at me, my family has issues, my dad doesn't love me...yadyadyad.
My favorite of course is one that was in both groups though. I don't want to be beautiful. I am so afraid of looking good. The fat is my wall to keep people away. ???
For most people who say that it just is pyschobabble. I mean really you are afraid of losing weight because your afraid that you will be too beautiful. Yea keep telling yourself that. Here is another truth - I am afraid to lose the weight because I will find that I am not beautiful and I won't change who I am so I won't have everyone flocking to me.
Many people who are unhappy think that losing weight will make them happy. And in some cases it will if you are losing for the right reasons. I was unhappy being overweight because I couldn't do anything. The weight actually hampered my life and I wanted to be able to do whatever I wanted without having to worry if my weight would constrain me. But others think that it will change their personality. You are who you are, with or without the weight. Accept that, and maybe losing weight will be easier.
This program is not cheap, and it surprises me that people actually keep coming when they are really unwilling to do the program. The truth is it takes very little discipline to do it. Really, we aren't given any choices and we are given a balanced food, so there is no craving for other foods. Well to be more specific maybe there are wantings, but not cravings.
Excuses galore. And some people take what they talk about in group and make that their excuse for straying from the program. We have talked alot about being emotional eaters, and so when someone strays it is because they had an "emotional" meltdown. Life is too stressful, my coworkers yelled at me, my family has issues, my dad doesn't love me...yadyadyad.
My favorite of course is one that was in both groups though. I don't want to be beautiful. I am so afraid of looking good. The fat is my wall to keep people away. ???
For most people who say that it just is pyschobabble. I mean really you are afraid of losing weight because your afraid that you will be too beautiful. Yea keep telling yourself that. Here is another truth - I am afraid to lose the weight because I will find that I am not beautiful and I won't change who I am so I won't have everyone flocking to me.
Many people who are unhappy think that losing weight will make them happy. And in some cases it will if you are losing for the right reasons. I was unhappy being overweight because I couldn't do anything. The weight actually hampered my life and I wanted to be able to do whatever I wanted without having to worry if my weight would constrain me. But others think that it will change their personality. You are who you are, with or without the weight. Accept that, and maybe losing weight will be easier.
Great insights.
ReplyDeleteI get to see first hand how much better you feel physically, AND I also see that you're presenting yourself in a more confident fashion (just like I'd always hoped since you're pretty darn wise & caring).
Taya & Tolar agree too (even though Taya wants more walks)