Today was preop and to say the least it was very stressful. I think that it is a family trait to lash out at those we love the most when we are most stressed, but for those around it can be a little uncomfortable. I ended up taking a couple of walks just to get away from the tension (not for exercise in other words.)
The word cancer is a dirty word, it doesn't matter what kind of cancer, if someone tells you you have cancer you feel like you have been slapped in the face. And until it is gone it is something that can potentially end your life. So to live with that for a month can add a bit of stress to your life.
But children don't seem to want to acknowledge illness in their parents (I know I never did) a child is so vulnerable that they just can't accept that their parents are vulnerable as well. So when you tell your child your sick you just might get a response like "can we go to the mall tomorrow after you get back from surgery?"
So take it personally, because they need to think everything is okay. No matter what.
The word cancer is a dirty word, it doesn't matter what kind of cancer, if someone tells you you have cancer you feel like you have been slapped in the face. And until it is gone it is something that can potentially end your life. So to live with that for a month can add a bit of stress to your life.
But children don't seem to want to acknowledge illness in their parents (I know I never did) a child is so vulnerable that they just can't accept that their parents are vulnerable as well. So when you tell your child your sick you just might get a response like "can we go to the mall tomorrow after you get back from surgery?"
So take it personally, because they need to think everything is okay. No matter what.
Most folks I know, including yours truly, TSH, are pretty good at avoidance techniques. If you don't want to think about something, think of something else.
ReplyDeleteWhen cancer is concerned, it's pretty darn hard NOT to think of mortality & consequences. It was stressful enough in SF just dealing with a distraught Taya who REALLY missed her mistress.
Glad you're now home & writing the blogs "in arrears"