Dieting is hard without people watching over you to see if you stay on the straight and narrow or to have them watch you to see what you are doing. I had a rather difficult time in Ohio knowing that they were watching what I was doing. It isn't a matter of how much they care, in fact having someone say don't ask her she can't have just pisses me off.
This is my journey, and I have never liked anyone telling me what I can and cannot do. I need to feel in charge, especially when it comes to what I put in my mouth. I do not - can not have people tell me - even if they are thinking they are being supportive - I can't eat something.
I felt like they thought I had no control. Just by looking at something or being offered something I do not have the will or won't power to turn it down. Don't offer it to her she is on a diet. What??? Am I some kind of vampire that the mere sight of blood will send me into a feeding frenzy? That is just nuts. And even though they thought that they were being supportive, they were actually being pretty condescending.
Furthermore, to be introduced as my SIL who is half her size is pretty embarrassing as well. They don't know me and they don't really care, but my weight has defined me for too long, I am tired of it still defining me.
This is one of the many reasons I do not like to tell people that I am dieting.
This is my journey, and I have never liked anyone telling me what I can and cannot do. I need to feel in charge, especially when it comes to what I put in my mouth. I do not - can not have people tell me - even if they are thinking they are being supportive - I can't eat something.
I felt like they thought I had no control. Just by looking at something or being offered something I do not have the will or won't power to turn it down. Don't offer it to her she is on a diet. What??? Am I some kind of vampire that the mere sight of blood will send me into a feeding frenzy? That is just nuts. And even though they thought that they were being supportive, they were actually being pretty condescending.
Furthermore, to be introduced as my SIL who is half her size is pretty embarrassing as well. They don't know me and they don't really care, but my weight has defined me for too long, I am tired of it still defining me.
This is one of the many reasons I do not like to tell people that I am dieting.
Wow, good post. I totally get it. Oh, and another reason you shouldn't tell people you are dieting...save it for the book!
ReplyDeleteI want there to be a Vampire German Shepherd in the book.
ReplyDeleteI went to lunch today with a friend who is just out of the Betty Ford clinic. Although he told me it doesn't bother him to watch other folks drink, I didn't have a glass of wine with lunch. I've acted the same with other friends who were recovering alcoholics/drug/etc & mean to be supportive but may not actually be perceived at being so.
I too get T3's comments & understand her not liking to be introduced as the newly half sized SIL.
I personally think of T3 as continuing to be beautiful, wonderful & a magnificent mate. T3 is swimming more & walking less with TSH and Taya, and I'd like to change the walking more. Walking & swimming more - what a deal!